Yet another story about how Effexor causes marital problems. I don't know how this one ended, but if they were talking about side effects then I believe there is a good chance they worked things out. I'll just choose to believe that.
Anyway, here's Rick's story:
For 10 years, my wife and I have enjoyed a wonderful life togther. I LOVE MY WIFE SO MUCH IT MAKES ME CRY AS I WRITE THIS. We were always having fun, incredible sex, a true passion for each other mentally and physically. She was a gift from God. People often commented what a great relationship we had. We would complete each others sentences and at parties would often catch each others eye from across the room and we hated to be apart even for a few minutes. Then after a really bad two years at her new job, she went into depression and had to quit her job. About ten monhts ago, she went on Effexor. Then started a new job. I supported her every step of the way. Then it all started. First the night sweats. Then the weight gain and constipation. Quit the gym. Working rediculous hours. Then the blackouts when she drank alcohol, even in front of friends. FYI, we are both in our 40's, a little old to have drunken blackouts. Then she just seemed to drift away mentally and physically. The only time she will have sex that she enjoys is when she is drunk. If she is sober and I initiate sex, she just looks into space and looks empty inside. The passion in our marriage is almost gone. I have pleaded with her, tried to buy back her sanity with gifts and surprise gestures, tried anything anyone would recommend to get her to see what this drug is doing to her and our marriage. I even stopped drinking to set an example. I tried being harsh, I tried threats, I tried showing more love, doing more around the house, but it has all failed. I even asked her to chose between me and the Effexor and Alcohol...she did not pick me. That hurt. Nothing is working. She can't even shed a tear anymore. Her memory is so bad she forgot the two years of depression and how I was there every day for her. When she tried to defend herself, she makes no sense at all, but feels she is making sense. She just looks at me and says I am the problem. I think her doctor made a huge mistake and it may cost me the women of my dreams. I am so depressed now that I may need to try one of these drugs....definately not Effexor. I just want my wife back. I would give up everything to get her back. Does anyone have any suggestions or similar expeiences? Please!!!! Time is running out for us. I miss my wife. (Wed Oct 11 13:07 2006)Here is a list my wife and I put together of all the side effects of using Effexor 150mg.Effexor 150mg problemsRating: 1=Minor 5=SeriousTremor = 2Restless Legs = 4Constipation = 4Night Sweats = 3Texture Problems =3Sexual Dysfunction = 5Intimacy problemsFatigue= 5Lacking Self Awareness = 4“Ticks” or other uncontrollable actions = 5· Finger Nail clicking =5· Scratching = 5· Eyebrow pulling = 5· Face touching = 4· Nail biting = 5· Picking at nails = 4Weight gain = 3Lack of emotion = 4Inappropriate behavior = 3Poor decision making = 4Inability to prioritize = 4Dry Mouth = 2Startled Easily = 4Warming sensation of the head = 2Overwhelming Fear of missing a dosage = 5Alcohol Related Problems = 5· Memory loss = 4· Blackouts or Pass outs = 2· Poor judgment or decision making = 5· Decrease in Tolerance = 5· Constant stroking of hair = 4(Thu Oct 12 9:59 2006)
